Save My Skin

Every woman experiences stretch marks at some point in her life.  Some experience it during puberty where growth spurts come with an unwelcome “friend”.  Others only experience them during pregnancy.  Save my skin is moisture rich and packed with essential oils to keep your skin sexy and smooth.  This oil is perfect to massage all of your cares and worries (not to mention those pesky stretch marks!) away.  I would recommend applying it every morning and night to reduce the appearance of stretch marks.

A must for every mom-to-be

A must for every mom-to-be

Hello Vagina, nice to meet you

****This post has anatomical drawings that some may find offensive****


I have been a Pure Romance consultant for just over a year now.  It is amazing how many women have very little knowledge of their own bodies.  Society does not like discussing female anatomy, think about how often you hear a joke or comment about a penis.  Now think about the term “vagina”.  It has a very negative connotation for most people.  Hopefully by the time you have  read to the end of this post you have a little  more love and respect for the humble vagina.   First things first, what most people refer to as the “vagina” is in fact the vulva.  The vulva is the external genitalia.  It consists of the outer and inner labia, clitoris, clitoral hood, opening to the urethra and the vaginal opening.


The labia surround and protect the clitoris,  the vaginal and urethral openings and contain special glands that secrete lubricant during sexual arousal  The Labia Majora contain a lot of fatty tissue and are often covered with hair.  These are also known as the “outer lips”.   The Labia Minora are the “inner lips” and are thinner, hairless and smaller than the outer lips.  They have a very good blood supply, which is why the Labia Minora become engorged (swollen) during sexual arousal.



The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that is purely designed for pleasure, it has no other function. The clitoral hood protects the clitoris.  Only 1/4 of the clitoris is visible, the rest (a further 12.5 cm ) is in the body.  The “legs” of the clitoris travel up on either side of the pelvis, a penis or toy inside the vagina will place pressure on these “legs”.  The 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris (the penis only has 4000) in turn have an effect on a further 15 000 nerve endings in the pelvis.    The clitoris can grow during a woman’s lifetime, by the age of 32 it is 4 times larger than at birth, by menopause it is 7 times the size of that of a newborn (could be why older women report having better sexual gratification than their younger counterparts!)


The vagina is a muscular tube that is 5-10 cm long and 2cm wide that curves and tilts forward towards the belly.  It expands during childbirth and intercourse, and after menopause the delicate tissues can scar or shrink. The one thing I often get asked is “can my toy or Ben Wa balls get lost?”.  The short answer is “NO”, the vagina does not go anywhere.  It is connected to the cervix via a small opening that is only big enough to allow sperm through.    The Vagina has a pH balance of 4.5 or less (which is actually quite acidic) and is home to healthy bacteria.  It is not necessary to use douche at all as it is self-cleaning (how amazing is that!) It is important to use lubrication during sex as it not only protects the delicate tissues from tearing but also helps to restore the pH balance of the vagina. Just like all muscles in the body, use it or lose it!  The vagina needs exercise to keep it healthy.  Childbirth, age and menopause all negatively affect the vagina.  The simple answer? Do your Kegel exercises! I will be doing a post soon about how to work those Kegel muscles.




In the 1950’s Dr Ernest Grafenberg announced to the world that he had discovered the G-Spot, a nerve rich area about 1/3 -1/2 way up the vaginal canal, against the anterior wall.   This is why G-Spot simulators are curved, they are designed to externally stimulate the clitoris and the vulva while internally stimulating the G-Spot. The G-Spot along with the adjacent Skene’s glands are often called the female prostate.    The existence of the G-Spot has never been consistently been proven in laboratory settings, which makes it entirely possible that not all women have one. dn21740-1_500




Labia and vagina’s are like snow flakes, each and every one is unique.  All women have different and unique bodies.  It is important that every woman knows her body and how it works.  Not only because you need to know what is normal to discover if something is wrong but also so that you know what “floats your boat” and how to have fantastic, mind-blowing orgasms.



Training 31 May 2014

I have decided to start posting a summary of all the Pure Romance training sessions that I attend, because sharing is caring and secondly to show what an amazing support system Pure Romance South Africa has.  The training was presented by my sponsor, so I was extra excited about attending the training.


The first topic we covered was why no men are allowed at Pure Romance parties.  After sharing some anecdotes about discussions we have had with men about Pure Romance, our products and parties, we got down to business. It is our founder, Patty Brisben’s vision to offer a safe environment for women to ask questions and learn about their bodies and intimacy.   Research has shown that men are not comfortable discussing intimate topics in front of their friends.  And of course, consultant safety is important.


Goal setting is important, you have to know where you want to be to know how to get there.  Personally I believe in setting a target, and then a stretch.  My goal for June would be to update my various social media accounts once a week, the stretch would be twice a week.  The same thing will apply to parties.  My goal is 1 party every 2 weeks, stretch would be 1 party every week.  As a group we have set the goal to have 6 parties in 60 days.  Hopefully I can reach that!


The ordering room is not only where you place your orders, it is where you really get to know your guests.  It provides a safe and private place where your guests can ask questions, get advice and find out what product they actually need (as opposed to what they think they need).


The Demonstration! It is so easy to just chat about the features of the products (what it is) as opposed to the benefits (what it does).  We practiced demonstrating some of the products because as we all know, practice makes permanent.  Practice builds confidence as verbalizing your demonstration reinforces things differently than when you simply read something.  It doesn’t help to memorize a script, you need to know your products.  


We discussed the different ways to get party bookings.  Talk about Pure Romance. Church, sport, your children’s school functions, hairdresser, the pharmacy, in the ques at the bank, while you pay your bills, do your weekly shopping…  the list is endless.  Use any opportunity to get your name out there.  Social media is a fantastic way to boost your business, it gives your potential hostesses the chance to see what you are offering them.


The meeting was full of anecdotes about previous parties, advice on how to improve our businesses loads of laughter and lots of fun.






Meet me in Tahiti

This luminous creme bronzer will give you a natural, healthy looking tan.  The moisturising formula has a shimmering compound that reflects light for a subtle glow.  Dab a small amount onto the tips of your fingers, rubbing them together to blend the colour.  Apply to your cheekbones, blending into your skin with a circular motion.  Narrow the coverage as you move towards your hairline.  Rub on your jaw line, under cheekbones and at the temples to contour and slim the face.

Price R246